Did you forget how amazing you are? Many of us do, on a regular basis. We have listened to others tell us all of our perceived faults. We have compared ourselves to others. We have forgotten that we are truly amazing. Instead, we believe that we are inadequate, unworthy or unlovable.

We often allow others’ opinions or definitions of us become our reality. Someone else may have told us that we are not good enough children, partners, parents, friends, employees. But what is their definition of what makes someone good enough? The person telling us has their own wounds that influence what they see and how they judge. Their perspective may have little or nothing to with our own reality. You need to create your own definition of what makes someone worthy.

We may be looking at others and their accomplishments and see that we are falling short. But who are we comparing ourselves to? If that person has decades of experience, while we have only months or days, then odds are that we are not as good. Nor should we be as good. And that is not a realistic comparison. Find someone who is in the same bracket as you.

But, even better, define for yourself what is good? What is good enough? What makes someone worthy, adequate, lovable? Ground that definition in reality and a healthy perspective. Then, after you have done that, and only then, will you be able to evaluate yourself on what you are doing well and what you need to work on.