A question I often get asked: is it possible to change? The short answer is yes. But, naturally, there is a much longer answer.

If you are asking because you want another person to change, that is a very complex subject. The first point about creating change is the wanting to. Your wanting for someone else is not enough. We all have to make the decision that we are not satisfied or happy with something and are willing to put the work in to create change within ourselves. We cannot make someone else get there, no matter how much we love them or how clear this choice seems.

But, if you are asking for yourself, then the answer is still yes, but still really much more complex. If you are truly wanting to do it for you, you have a much better chance of making that change, than if you are feeling pressured by someone.

Look at the behavior or thought pattern or habit that you wish to change. Notice what triggers it. Start creating different patterns. For instance, if you wish to stop smoking, notice when you smoke. Some people get triggered to smoke after eating. Get a bunch of sugar free lollipops and have them available to put in your mouth after a meal instead of the cigarettes. Have them readily available. There are many more steps to quitting smoking. In fact, it is one of the hardest addictions to quit, but this gives you an idea of what I am suggesting.

It is possible to change. It takes effort, patience, consistency, and forgiveness of yourself. You can do it, slowly. But you can do it. Stick to it and become the person you wish to become!