Asking for help is very difficult for many people. Some people are afraid to do it because they feel that they will be disappointed, or that they do not deserve it or that they feel like they have to do everything by themselves. Some people ask for help with everything that they do because they believe that they are incapable or incompetent, or they like to be waited on.

Either way, asking for help can be problematic. So, the trick, as it were, is to be able to ask for help in a healthy manner. First, ask if whatever the task is, can you do it yourself? Not do you want to, or if you should, but can you. If you have difficulty answering this, ask if a friend of yours were doing this task, would they need help with it? If the answer is yes, then this is a task that requires help to get it done. A great example is carrying something very heavy. This is something that one person cannot do alone. If on the other hand, the answer is, no, a person could totally do it alone, then you can act on that.

Once you know if the task requires help, then you can go to the next step. If it requires more than one person, what stops you from asking for help? Or if it is a task that does not require more than one person, what is stopping you from doing it by yourself? Whatever your answer is to whichever question is appropriate, that is where you need to focus your energy. That is what you need to figure out so that you can make healthy choices for yourself.

Such a simple question will make a profound impact as you allow yourself to honestly answer and then act on that answer. Have the courage to ask. Have the courage to answer.